Bishop Jordan is my best friend. I do not have a lot of friends, but I have one good friend. He is my best friend, and that is my husband because we can laugh and we can talk. I am going to tell you a secret. We are just friends. We do what friends do. I can remember the time we went back to college and we took a class and I said to him, “This is the game plan; we are not going to tell anybody we are married, we are just friends.” Sure enough, the first day of class introducing ourselves, Bishop Jordan began to tell everyone.
He cannot keep a secret. I said, friends are supposed to keep a secret but we had fun in life and in our relationship as friends. Sometimes, you might not be able to see eye-to-eye as a husband and wife, but as a friend to a friend, you can begin to talk about it.
Now I (Bishop Jordan) am going to say this, let me backup for a moment. As the husband, I have to be the protector, a husband- man, a farmer, and the one that provides. I would always say to my wife coming up early in the marriage in the first couple of years that we were married I would say, “Honey, Sarah called Abraham, Lord.” So I would say to my wife, “You need to call me, Lord.”
My wife would call me Lord. But then, there was a little struggle. There was a struggle because of my (Debra’s) religiosity and ideology; I begin to say, I call no man Lord. I only called Jesus Christ Lord, because he was the one that died for me. I got all religious on that. However, the Holy Spirit began to tell me, “Do you know what the Lord is? You are just honoring your husband. A lord is someone that has gained, that has real estate, so you are not doing anything. You are not dishonoring me; you are honoring me while you are honoring him.” It was easier to consider him lord. The lord also means provider. When I gave him that honor and that respect, I knew that I was also honoring and respecting our Lord Jesus Christ.