When two people are friends, it is important to have a friendly relationship. The Bible reveals the importance of friends for human beings. If there is so much emphasis on friendship in Scriptures, we can assume that a marriage covenant is supposed to include friendship. The power truth above shows that a friend is someone who will love you at all times (Proverbs 17:17).
In any weather in life, good or bad, you can expect a friend to be there for you. King Solomon describes a friend that sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24). Your spouse, even if you are not related by blood, if you are friends, you are closer than a brother. This means a friendship between two persons means a bond that is thicker than blood.
What do you expect in a spouse? Do you expect someone who will be there for you at all times? Do you want someone who will be there for you for better or for worse? Do you want someone who will love you no matter what? This is what we find in a friend. These are qualities of a friend. This is what we can expect in a friend. We want our spouses to be our friends.
When someone is your friend, the presumption is he or she is on the same side as you. Otherwise, the person who is not on your side is your enemy. We have mentioned before that sometimes, the spouse becomes the enemy. This should not be the state of a marital relationship. You must make sure your spouse is the friend, and not the foe. You are a team. You must be on the same side. A friend would defend you. A friend has your back. A friend is someone you can turn to in times of trouble. When you are in a marriage, you need your husband or your wife to be your friend, your best friend.
When you become one with someone, you want to have a united relationship. The husband and the wife must be the ones who support each other. It is not only in the serious matters, such as one’s career moves, family matters, and health. It is also in the little things, such as one’s hobbies, interests, and sports. The recreational value that friendship offers is also included in the appeal of friendship.
Sometimes, men and women enjoy time with their friends, more than they do with their spouses. They enjoy the company of their other friends and look forward to it more than they do their spouses. How come? This should not be the case for married couples. The problem is they have been caught up in the realities and frustrations of everyday life that it sucks the joy out of their marriage. In short, their friendship is taken for granted to cater to the responsibilities of married life.